Don't Do This!!!

This blog is all about something you should not do and sometimes you need the maturity to understand certain things until they happen to you. This is a very quick blog on this and I am not going to waste your reading time on a random Sunday evening. Meanwhile, Thanks to each and every one who responded with so many great messages for my previous blog; it means a lot! Today I thought I would talk about these three things: 1. Your problems > My problems, 2. Desperation in love? and 3. Don't try to be anyone's 1 or 2. So let's go.

Your problems > My problems

Okay, I have been a very talkative person since childhood, a pure extrovert. During my senior year of schooling, I was still an extrovert but I stopped sharing my things with anyone. I just had me, no one to back me off, and definitely, I was not complaining because all my best friends had a lot of their own to deal with. From then on, I stopped sharing my personal stories with anyone and until now, most of my people don’t know what's been cooking in my life!

What happens because of this? We tend to showcase a triple-happy face to hide the darkest things within. We do it deliberately so that people won't ask us- Whether we are okay or not.

So what I noticed with a lot of people in my life is that Whenever they try to say something traumatic about their life with someone, they have a very different answer. I will make this very short.

If someone is coming to say something very serious about their life—it can be parental issues, insecurities, or harassment—listen to me very carefully. Don't make them uncomfortable by being- This has happened to me as well, and I had the most terrible experience compared to you. It was more than you and I'm glad it went very short on you. Tamil la solanum means EDHULAAM ONNUME ILLA. ENAKU EDHA VIDA PERUSA NADANTHURUKU! Fucking don't be like this, bro!

If you are someone who does this, it's very wrong. If someone is coming to tell you their darkest secret, listen first, calm them down, be a good person to just help them out, and talk about things you went through and how you dealt with them in a way that makes them comfortable. JUST LISTEN! Listen okay?

Don't fucking rank your problems with them. Your problems are not greater than anyone else's. It's your journey through life and doesn't compare with anyone else's.

So what happened after not sharing anything with anyone? I and a few other people had a similar experience.

I tend to go to this random person who I haven't even talked to for a while. I will just sit with them and ask them, “Are you okay?” I will hear them, listen to them, and find happiness in the way I solve others' problems and escape with my own.

We do this, and a lot of our friends do this, because of the ignorance we had in our childhood with our parents, friends, lovers, or siblings.

I mean, there are a few people who drain you off, but it might be their coping mechanism, right? Take it slow with anyone and everyone because, in this world of so many fast things, We are fucking losing our minds.

Also, You don't have to listen to everyone! I know you, too, are suffering alone! You can be polite enough to say to them, I am not in a great mood to listen now. Can we talk about it later? As I said earlier, it sometimes takes maturity to understand life, and it will take time too.

Don't try to be anyone’s first, second or third

This is not a very offensive one. Take this on a very mature note. Listen, we all have a group of friends, right? From school, college, the office, tuition, sports, and even cousins?

We will have a very different experience with each gang. So if we could have a very different experience with each gang, how much can we have with a person?

Yes, you will have that one real person—who can be your lover, best friend, or sibling—with whom you want to be true. But in the meantime, don't make them so stressed that you just have me; I am your number 1, and don't do that.

Let them be them, and you be you and it will work out if you are honest with anyone. Don't try to be anyone’s No. 1 or No. 2 and it will freak you out in the long run.

Don't be desperate to find love!

I know for a fucking real reason that- Sometimes not being in love is hard. It's hard to be alone and it's hard to see no one there sometimes. But love is something that still exists in this fast-moving fucking world where everything has a reason and a term for its convenience.

I have seen people holding hands from 7th std to now, I have seen people who have been together for less than a year and still be so beautiful. I have seen people who break all the stereotypes for just being in love. I have seen people who travel together miles from here, dream life together and actually make it together. I have seen people loving endlessly, not giving up, and just loving each other. So I see people like these around me. So love does exist in the purest format you need.

But listen, I know again for real. It's hard to be alone! But hey hear me out, We will find love in the most unexpected time with the unexpected person with just one instance- You know they are the one. We will find it one day. Until then, go on self-dates, embrace yourself, and try to know more about yourself. Don't try to be desperate and seek love in every person you meet. You will find it and until then, WAIT for it because it's worth waiting, Isn't it?

I think that's what comes from me today. If you also want to share any point further to it, you know the drill? We can talk about it. Have a great week, guys. In the rush of finding everything, don't forget to live life and make yourself happy! See you soon!